Choose Your Battles



Some fights are unfair.

Those are cowardly and despicable acts

inflicted by the perpetrator.

They are the ones with intent to cause harm to another.


Aggression against others

is an imbalance in power.

The aggressor never wins.

The reason because the fight is

not mutual.

The confrontation has no balance of power.

A predator versus prey

situation occurs.

        But, there are times

fights are


Not all fights are menacing.

The fight is considered fair

if both parties are willing participants.

Sometimes in life

because of adversities and crisis,

fighting your way out a situation

might require




it’s the battle against resistance.


It is not unfair to fight,

for self-empowerment.

Fight the good fight for health, relationships,

finances, your family

fight with diligence.

You will find, in the end,

your fight was worth fighting,

you’ve fought a good fight.                                                                                                                        



In observance of the Daily Prompt Challenge- today’s word is Fight   

Domestic Violence remains one of the leaders in violence against others. In addition, in this Technological Age of society, cyber bullying is one of the fastest growing forms of aggression against others. It is a crime associated with afflicting aggression and intimidation on others who are vulnerable. One reason the trend of cyber bullying is increasing- those who bully or cause physical and emotional harm to others tend to hide behind their tactics by using electronic devices or anonymity. However, bullying has many faces.

Although some of these faces are not easily recognized- one should consider bullies do not always fight physically. Bullying occurs in the forms of intimidation and control. The use of  spirituality, physical (domestic) abuse, psychological manipulation, threats, and social media (cyber bullying) are common control trends.  Bullying emotionally and physically begins subtly.  If you are or know someone who is a victim of bullying or domestic violence don’t be afraid to take your control back, fight back by exposing the attacker or the attacks. Tell someone. Get the help you need.

12 thoughts on “Choose Your Battles

  1. Excellent post Yvonne. Being a survivor of domestic abuse I’ve always said that the physical pain was relatively easy to get over but the emotional and psychological abuse took many years to heal and even then there are sometimes triggers that take me back to that time. Cyber bullying is abominable and I refuse to give these cowards any air time. If they spent more time working on themselves as opposed to hating on others, well…

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thanks Stephanae for sharing your experience first-hand. You said something key, “if they spent more time working on themselves as opposed to hating on others” we will be better off. I appreciate your input.

      Liked by 1 person

      1. You’re welcome. It’s sad that we live in a culture where we have to bring these types of things to the forefront but it’s necessary to protect those who are or would be victims of abuse. Thank you for speaking to this important issue.

        Liked by 1 person

      2. Thanks Stephanae. I am sure many are aware of some of the topics I write about, but I have purpose to make my blog one to address matters of the heart and cover different aspects of heart matters. I hope to have the opportunity to touch the lives of someone who might be in need of hearing or reading the right thing at the right time. When I was working as a casemanager, I had the opportunity to hear the story from a young lady sharing her mother’s story of domestic violence. Unknown to me, I was here mother’s casemanager year’s prior. She said her mother said the words I told her while she was in my office resonated, and her mother decided that day she would change her life. Her mother got her and her sister and left her abusive situation. She entered a shelter the same day their lives were changed. My favorite part of her story is her mother empowered herself. She returned to school, and because she and her sister witnessed their mother’s transformation, it inspired them to do the same for their lives. She informed me her mother later became a Director of a government housing agency. She also said, she (herself) was graduating shortly and would become an LPN, and her sister had entered the Army. She said her mother told them about me and our conversation years prior. At that moment, it made my job worth it. I’ll never forget the power of words and encouragement- the opportunity to witness its effectiveness while I did not have any indication of its impact.

        Liked by 1 person

      3. Wow!! What a remarkable story and it just goes to show that we never know how the actions that we do today may impact someone else’s life. The chain reaction from the moment you spoke with that woman and the steps she took to better herself was transferred to her daughters. Remarkable and as you say encouraging to others facing the same type of situation.

        Liked by 1 person

      4. Yes, I was moved by their experience. The day her mother was in the office over 20 years ago, I had no imagination my words would affect her. I never knew until her daughter shared her mother’s story.

        Liked by 1 person

  2. Good post. I’ve previously been in a very long relationship where my ex would physically lash out at me when we argued. I’d like to be able to post more about it but currently involved in a messy legal custody battle with her, so have to be careful what I say. If that part of my story ends happily, I’ll let you know.

    Thankfully I’ve now found love with someone new. Some of my poems on my site relate to my previous rather traumatic relationship but a lot more recently are love poems for my much nicer girlfriend – Phoebe.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. I am happy you are willing to share that you relate in a more personal way. I respect your need for discretion. I wish you the best, and I’m happy your heart remain open to receive love and was not bitter. Best regards.

      Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s