Seems the older I am becoming the less embarrass I become. I remember I was in a meeting, I sat down, missed the chair and fell to the floor. I assume, those in the room tried to help me because no one laughed. I really didn’t feel embarrassed. I was more baffled why no one came to assist me or make sure I was alright.
Embarrassment, why do we feel embarrassed? We are embarrassed when we are conscious of our actions which falls short of our expectations or reveals our flaws.
We are ashamed of having our short-coming exposed before others. We are more concern how others will perceive our action than how we feel about our actions.
Whenever we are embarrassed, we are demonstrating self-awareness. One could associate embarrassment with perfectionism. When expectations are set to a certain standard one might feel embarrassed when the standard is not upheld.
What should we do to help ease the feeling of embarrassment? 1) learn to laugh at yourself instead of reacting to others laughing at you. Take the edge off of the embarrassment with laughter. 2) Don’t take life too serious, loosen up. 3) Keep in mind, the embarrassing moment or experience will soon pass.
Besides, people have short-term memories more likely than you suspect. You are more prone to think about the incident than others. 4) If your embarrassment involves another person, apologize if necessary. Acknowledge what has happened if needed. 5) Give yourself permission to recover. 6) Don’t be hard on yourself. Release the guilt. 7) Forgive yourself if needed.
I could give countless tales of personal embarrassing moments. Many of you can too. What we share in common- regardless of the embarrassment, like in all things “this too shall pass.”
Keep in mind, whatever the mishap, the embarrassment does not last forever. You may live with the consequence of our actions, but the feeling of embarrassment because of your actions does dissipate.