The perfect person is in your mind. This person is designed by you. He or she looks, acts, walks and talks the way you imagine. The challenge is getting this person out of your mind and into your reality. The reality- you can’t. There’s one Creator of mankind. It’s impossible to create this individual. (We can produce others, but we can not create them. If you think so, try)
One day, if you find someone close to your perfect image, he or she will never add up to everything you desired. You’ll find this person will fall short of some of your expectations, either by words, actions or deeds. The reason- this person can’t follow the scripts written in your mind.
You could miss out on an ideal mate because you’ve chased an illusion of the image of perfection. The reality- we fall short of perfection and the person you’ve imagined does not exist.
If you do not fail to see things this way, whenever you finally decide to let go of the ideal of “the perfect one”, you might find yourself older, alone, or you’ve let the ideal person walk away.
Allow your potential mate to be unique. Appreciate the characteristics you were drawn to in him or her.
Instead of looking for someone to fulfill your script, learn to love and see them perfectly fine in his or her uniqueness.
I remember hitting my mid-thirties and tossing “my list” out the window. Beauty fades, and when we’re older, we want someone to converse with, someone to love, someone who loves us back. No one is perfect, but you want to find someone who is already whole. That whole “you complete me” foolishness only makes sense in movies. 🙂 Great post on perfection, Yvonne!
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Thanks Michelle, you’re right. The wiser one becomes the more important integral things matter than the superficial ones.
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Yvonne – great post on perfection. The older we get the wiser we become.
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I agree Pamela, thanks for your input!
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You are welcome
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Another very thought provoking post. I have made LOTS of relationship mistakes or should I say “learning experiences”. Finally, I got that I needed to love ME first – I am still working on myself – a lifelong journey.
Can I offer you an apology Yvonne for not being included in my shout out on Friday. I included you in my list but there seemed to be confusion over your blog address. My brain was too tired to investigate further. I really enjoy reading your posts.
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Thanks, I appreciate the “shout out” Friday post consideration. I am new to this site, and there is probably something I need to do to correct the address or merge it some way. In time, I hope to figure it out. I also appreciate your input about your “learning experience” because that is truly what it is, somehow in time despite our imperfections we tend to figure it out if we remain open-minded.
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Thank you. I hope the site address works out. I always appreciate feedback.
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You’re welcome.
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Lovely post Yvonne! None is perfect, we strive for perfection daily. Thanks for sharing.
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Thank you too. I appreciate you reading and responding.
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one word…Beautiful. it is an explicit item:)
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Ah thanks 🙂
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