Already Gone

Disclaimer- I claim no copyrights to the song/or video concept in the above video

The artist Faith Evans released a song entitled “Gone Already” in 2010. Since then, Kelly Clarkson, and a few others, released a song entitled “Gone Already.” In 2010, when I heard Faith Evan’s song, at first, the title caught my attention.

Then, after listening to the medley, I really liked what I heard. But, then, after listening closer to the lyrics and understanding its meaning, I was in engaged in examining the concept of being in a relationship but emotionally disconnected. We do this more often than we think.

Unfortunately, the disconnection is a reality in many relationships. Both parties are either in denial or they know there’s a disconnect, but they don’t know what to do next.

In some instances, they’re perplexed how or when the disconnect occurred. An emotional disconnect occurs on other levels like in relationships between parents and children too. If we’re not careful, we can occupy the same space and because of technology, work schedules, and social obligations outside of home, the communication is weaken.

Now, going back to Evan’s “Gone Already,” there’s a reference in the song to “loving someone who hasn’t taken the time to get to know you, but you go through the motions” these aren’t the exact words, but this is the essence of what the lyrics in one of the lines is saying. Evans goes on further to say, she felt like “a dead man walking and everything was becoming monotonous.”

Some may argue, in regards to committed relationships, particularly marriage, relationships aren’t all about emotions. I agree, relationships require more than emotions to sustain their commitment. 

But, how is a marriage sustained without interaction or some form of equal exchange, especially in this Technological society? One might give his or her best, but if there’s no reciprocal exchange or validation of the relationship, the couple is only co-existing not experiencing fulfillment.

Remember, entering into a relationship at some point, both of you were “feeling each other”, or there was something which drew you together. The sense of connection to the other’s vibe and the interaction were engaging. More than likely, you couldn’t wait to be in the other’s presence.

Well, this is the type of existence and interaction I’m referring to. No, you don’t need to stay in each other’s presence all the time. But, you do need to maintain a level of communication and interaction which requires talking and listening to each other. In other words, be “present.” Don’t “check out” on each other. Communication isn’t limited to couples but in other situations as well.

As in the words of the song, what about you? Think of a relationship or situation you are in, are you present or already gone? Are you in the moment. How is your exchange and interaction with your significant other or with others Are you genuinely interested or disengaged, do you lack interest when the communication is not about you?

Just Something to think about.

Discovery Prompt Day 17 – Distance

Nothing is as distant as an estranged relationship. When the two no longer feel togetherness, the distance is unnerving. It eats at your core. The bridge between the two is hard to cross. When tension adds up to a high hill it switches to mountainous accusations.

When the lack of communication has reached its peak, distance is an enemy to any relationship. At this point, to move from a rocky to smooth place, it takes both to decide if the distance widens or closes in.

The only way around it is to gravitate back to the place of destination while trying to avoid slippery slopes. Getting to that place is not easy. The momentum is different. It might require different tools to find your way especially if both perspectives have slightly changes. If there is friction and some spots are still heated, there is a need to test the water.

Relax, breathe, listen to each other. Mountains are tiresome, they’re frustrating and exhausting. Keep a little distance between each other.

Calm down, keep moving along. Once things are settled down, it’s worth the journey.

Good bye Tony

Original post from Peaceful Journey reblogged.

Lyf Mindset Strategies

Video song T.O.N.Y. by Solange Knowles  (Disclaimer- I claim no copyrights to the song/or video concept from the above video) 

TONY is the one you declare your love to.

TONY is the one you put your heart, soul, and trust in.

TONY is the love who leaves you feeling betrayed.

Because of TONY, you hold your heart close.

Because of TONY, you close your heart.

TONY is the reason the right person is hard to come by-

TONY is the reason you won’t let the right person in.

TONY is the one who makes you think they’re all the same.

TONY is the one who makes it hard to see they’re all not the same.

TONY is the reason you’re still lovelorn.

TONY is the reason you’re still looking.

TONY is the reason it’s time to get a life.

TONY is the reason it’s time to move…

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