Measurable Growth

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Something to think about: You can tell children are “growing” when they are outgrowing their clothing. On the other hand, you can tell when adults have grown because they comfortably fit the clothing they’re wearing.

Keep in mind, measurable growth is secondary to self-acceptance.  Self-acceptance allows one to bear the cost of remaining comfortable in his or her skin.

The Art of Saying Yes and No

The Art of Saying Yes and No

Some still struggle with saying yes or no when they mean it. When I was younger, the elderly taught me you “say what you mean, and mean what you say.” During those years, this principle sounded easy to say than to apply.  Since I was a little shy,  it was easier to please others than cause discord.

As an adult, on my peaceful journey, I am learning more about the importance of assertiveness. My dependency on the approval and validation from others is no longer a controlling factor.  I try to honor my truth and live in authenticity. While I may fall short, this is my aim.

Subsequently, I listen to others complain about the expectations placed on them from others and hear their complaints regarding things they have agreed to do for others. Their complaint is they wish they had said “no” instead of saying “yes” or vice versa.

Well, why complain if you’re doing for others because you’re kind enough to help? Do it without complaining.  On the other hand, if you’re assisting others out of a sense of obligation or fear of rejection don’t. Say “no.”

Have you considered why you’re the one others freely come to and not others?   The reason is  you may be their only yes.

When the power of saying yes and no is learned, then we learn the power in becoming true to ourselves.  Saying “yes or no” should come from a place of sincerity and purity.  When, we’re not saying “yes or no” begrudgingly our heart is not misleading.

Whenever we’re communicating with others, we must be assertive and take a firm stand. This is not rudeness. It is using good judgment. A “yes” at the wrong time can be detrimental to all involved. The same goes for saying “no”.  Handling things right prevents us from experiencing frustrations about our action and help us avoid becoming resentful.

Take the time to see the value of honoring your truth.  More than likely, you’ll find you’re saying “yes or no”often as before. You will experience empowerment because you did not go against your freewill.

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