Are You Present or Already Gone?

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The artist Faith Evans released a song entitled “Gone Already” in 2010. Since then, Kelly Clarkson, and a few others, released a song entitled “Gone Already.” In 2010, when I heard Faith Evan’s song, at first, the title caught my attention.

Then, after listening to the medley, I really liked what I heard. But, then, after listening closer to the lyrics and understanding its meaning, I was in engaged in examining the concept of being in a relationship but emotionally disconnected. We do this more often than we think.

Unfortunately, the disconnection is a reality in many relationships. Both parties are either in denial or they know there’s a disconnect, but they don’t know what to do next.

In some instances, they’re perplexed how or when the disconnect occurred. An emotional disconnect occurs on other levels like in relationships between parents and children too. If we’re not careful, we can occupy the same space and because of technology, work schedules, and social obligations outside of home, the communication is weaken.

Now, going back to Evan’s “Gone Already,” there’s a reference in the song to “loving someone who hasn’t taken the time to get to know you, but you go through the motions” these aren’t the exact words, but this is the essence of what the lyrics in one of the lines is saying. Evans goes on further to say, she felt like “a dead man walking and everything was becoming monotonous.”

Some may argue, in regards to committed relationships, particularly marriage, relationships aren’t all about emotions. I agree, relationships require more than emotions to sustain their commitment. 

But, how is a marriage sustained without interaction or some form of equal exchange, especially in this Technological society? One might give his or her best, but if there’s no reciprocal exchange or validation of the relationship, the couple is only co-existing not experiencing fulfillment.

Remember, entering into a relationship at some point, both of you were “feeling each other”, or there was something which drew you together. The sense of connection to the other’s vibe and the interaction were engaging. More than likely, you couldn’t wait to be in the other’s presence.

Well, this is the type of existence and interaction I’m referring to. No, you don’t need to stay in each other’s presence all the time. But, you do need to maintain a level of communication and interaction which requires talking and listening to each other. In other words, be “present.” Don’t “check out” on each other. Communication isn’t limited to couples but in other situations as well.

As in the words of the song, what about you? Think of a relationship or situation you are in, are you present or already gone? Are you in the moment. How is your exchange and interaction with your significant other or with others Are you genuinely interested or disengaged, do you lack interest when the communication is not about you?

Just Something to think about.

The Act of Being in Love

The Act of Being in Love


The act of “being in love” is a mental state of fulfillment.

It’s where happy hearts are lit and blaze within.

It is where two merging souls meet in a mutual place.

The act of “being in love” requires commitment.

It’s the inner knowing the love connection is pure-

and when the blazing flame is no longer felt-

the determination and willingness

to keep the heart warm and love alive is innate.


`Yvonne L









Some friends are around since childhood. They have connected either in child’s play, as classmates, neighbors, college associates, acquaintances, co-workers, or from other paths in life. Sometimes the manner of friendship connections can determine how friendship bonds continue.  The longevity of relationships usually continues when friends share similar values.


As time pass, relationships may change.  Meaningful friendships evolve and become more defined and narrowed. In some instances, friendship may necessitate a demonstration of loyalty and commitment during times of adversity. A deeper level of trust may develop as friends display their genuine concern and compassion for each other.  

This type of relational display is recognized when friends may express and show their interest for another friend’s well-being as though they are the ones facing their friend’s challenge or crisis.

There’s a saying “blood is thicker than water.” The implication is family ties are stronger than none family members. But, the reality is- some friends may stick closer than a brother or sister.

Another way to recognize the loyalty of friend,  instead of judging, friends will offer their perspective to provide their friend another point of view.  Although he or she may show support, he or she will not compromise integrity of change stances.  Both parties will respect the others position.


Loyal friends don’t need to talk every day or week to maintain their bonds. Regardless of distance or frequency, a true friend is dependable and willing to lend help or a listening ear.

True friends are revealed over time, they are few. Friendship requires endurance and sometimes testing.  Some friendships are seasonal. Childhood friends may no longer interact later in life as well as college friends you no longer see.  

The reason, as life continues individuals change their perspectives.  Individuals may venture in different directions or embrace different philosophies and values.  Some friendships are fostered later in life.

Oftentimes a relationship may change or diminish between friends who have matured, developed into their self-identity, established new core values, or ventured into a spiritual path which no longer aligns with the existing relationship.  

For this reason, some friendships evolves.  However, it is important to note, relational encounters and experiences are valuable.  These relationships help shape your sense of individualism.