Love on the Other Side

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Photo credit: Steve Harvey web source

Recently I was watching a 70’s musical performance of classic groups like the Dells, Dramatics, Chi-lites, Temptations on the Public Broadcast station, Sister Sledge was one of the groups performing. Joni, one of its members, was in rare form and beautiful as usual.

Last week, at the age of 60, Joni (the one on the right) passed unexpectedly. The cause of her death is reportedly natural cause. This dynamic group consisted of Debbie, Kim, Kathy, and Joni. Some might remember their song We are Family. We are Family became a theme song for families during the early 70’s.

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This week, several individuals I know passed, suddenly. They were ages 44 and 51. Two weeks earlier I attended the funeral of a 92 years old woman.  I know death is inevitable and unapologetic, but the passing of these individuals sadden my heart. I must admit, of their passing, I was thinking more about the loved ones left behind.

The consolation I have in situations like these is death does not defeat love. Love conquers all and transcends death.  Therefore, I choose to embrace the reality death separates but love reigns.

`Yvonne L.

 

Age is Only a Number

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This Summer my birthday is approaching.

Do I dread my soon newly assigned age? No.

Why should I stress out because my age changes?

Besides, I am grateful to remain among the land of the living.

But, let’s take a more realistic approach. Are we really dreading a number that much?  Is it possible we really dread facing the societal expectations for certain ages?

For example, if you are an infant, you act as an infant.  If you are an adolescent, you should act as an adolescent.  When you become an adult, then you should act as an adult.

Of course, there are scientific studies on developmental stages. Some things are expected within certain age ranges, I’m aware.

But, what’s up with the dreaded resistance of reaching 30, 40, 50, 60 and so on? So what, you reached 30? Guess what? 31 will follow 30 if you keep living.

If you’re concerned about age, don’t stress out, use your time wisely.

Learn, grow, and embrace maturity.

It’s one of the best birthday gifts you can receive.

You may find, you’ll appreciate life.

You’ll recognize there are more years behind you than before you.

You’ll  embrace simplicity.

You’ll learn not to “sweat the small things” and others don’t “ruffle your feathers” easily.

You’ll seek less validation from others and you mean what you say unapologetically but apologize when needed.

With maturity, who wouldn’t want that?

After all,  when you embrace age, you are really embracing Life!

Spring Forward

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Spring is fast approaching.

Daylight savings time draws near.

Pollen and allergens, all are signs of Spring

in the air.

Busy bees, insects and pests

are moving with prominence.

The signs of life are prevalent and

indicators c life moves on

and move forward.

So, get into the flow

and spring forward!

Renew, rejuvenate, replenish,  restore

restore if you must.

Whatever you do,

come alive!

Resurrect,

propel your dreams.

It’s your life.

Spring forward!

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`Yvonne L.

3 Line Tales – Week Forty-Six

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Photo by Bruno Nascimento via Unsplash

Life’s amazing tapestry of picturesque views distract inhabitants from seeing beneath its surface.

A closer look behind its façade reveals everything isn’t as it appears, some things are hidden.

Look closer, holes are in crevices, just when everything appears flawless, there are flaws.

Remove the Layers

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Life is like a warm blanket wrap around a baby. From infancy until you become an adult, many expectations and preconceived notions of who are and what you should become are layers placed on you. Your parents are the first to layer you with expectations, family, and friends are among those who add additional layers. You then find yourself bombarded with expectations to comply to rather than conforming to your true identity.

Some of these layers are include questions and expectations such as: Where are you going to school? What do you want to be when you grow up? When are you getting married? When are you starting a family? These pressing questions may lead one to believe he or she must succumb to meeting the demands, therefore, therefore, he or she adds additional layers to meet such demands.

As one continues his or her journey, the journey continues, one may find himself or herself on the road to self-reflection and discover he or she has embraced an identity which does not reflect one’s authentic self. The reason is one have conformed to layers placed by societal expectations.

When one reaches this self-realization, like a baby wrapped in a warm blanket, he or she is no longer comfortable until some of the layers are removed. This is also considered the renewing of the mind.

The process of renewing the mind begins the process of reaching the inner core of one’s authentic self.

If we progress to this place, this is a good place- unless one returns to the original plan for his or her life, he or she will experience a void and sense of incompletion. The removal of layers process is necessary; otherwise, the desire to reach a place of refuge within will continue.

The old adage, “I feel comfortable in my skin,” is a place one can reach. It requires the renewing of the mind, but we all can get there.